Erotic Fiction

Pornography has its place, and many times, I have clients who would like to explore erotica, but are uncomfortable with visual representations. I also work with many people who have had sexual trauma so engaging with erotica can be overwhelming. Enter roman-ticy. (Romance+Fantasy).

Rebecca Yarros’s Fourth Wing is a great series, weaving together themes that echo the lived experiences, desires, and challenges many straight, cis-women face today.

At its heart, Fourth Wing is a journey of self-discovery. Violet Sorrengail is thrust into a world where physical strength and martial prowess are prized, yet her body is frail, her mind sharp, and her spirit quietly rebellious. For many women, Violet’s struggle to define herself against societal expectations and family legacy is deeply relatable. The novel’s exploration of how “true strength emerges from embracing one’s uniqueness and turning perceived weaknesses into assets” mirrors the therapeutic process of helping women reclaim and celebrate their authentic selves in a culture that often demands conformity.

Yarros’s sensitive depiction of Violet’s chronic illness and disability is especially significant. Rather than being defined by her limitations, Violet’s determination and resilience shine through. This representation is not only refreshing but also empowering for readers who may see aspects of their own struggles reflected in her story. The message is clear: strength is multifaceted, and thriving is possible even in the face of adversity.

The romance between Violet and Xaden stands out for its emphasis on mutual respect, growth, and sizzling chemistry. Their partnership is built on challenge and support, autonomy and vulnerability which is a dynamic for which many women long, but may struggle to find or express in real life. The slow-burn attraction and eventual (quite literally) explosive intimacy between the two characters are not just titillating; they are emotionally resonant and integral to character development. As a sex therapist, I appreciate how the story normalizes female desire and agency, allowing Violet to embrace her sexuality without shame or fear of judgment. This aligns with therapeutic goals of helping women reclaim pleasure and assertiveness in their intimate lives.

Fourth Wing succeeds because it doesn’t shy away from the complexities of being a woman: the tension between vulnerability and strength, the desire for connection and independence, the struggle against both external and internalized oppression. As a sex therapist, I see how these themes can validate, inspire, and empower women by reminding them that their stories, desires, and voices matter.

I’m also reading Sarah Maas’ series to keep up with this new-to-me genre.