The Unique Marriage of Science and Sex

A colleague at the AASECT Annual Conference recommended this book to me last summer. I wish I remembered who it was because I have so many questions about what made him recommend this book, Mary Roach's Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex, to me. While the book is undoubtedly engaging, it has some serious limitations.

Roach's approach to the subject is refreshingly candid and humorous. She tackles taboo topics with a light-hearted tone that makes the science of sex more accessible to the general public. Her footnotes are so extra, but I loved them. By sharing her own experiences as a research subject, including sex in an MRI with her husband, Roach humanizes the scientific process and demonstrates the dedication of researchers in this field.

The book covers a wide range of topics, from the history of sex machines to the complexities of female orgasms. This breadth provides readers with a birds’-eye view of the field, highlighting areas that still require further study. Roach's ability to explain complex biological processes and surgical procedures in layman's terms is particularly commendable.

The book's focus on biological aspects of sex, while informative, doesn't delve deeply into the psychological and emotional components that we explore in sex therapy. This could potentially reinforce a mechanistic view of sexuality that doesn't fully capture the complexity of human sexual experiences.

Although Roach does mention trans and gay individuals, the book primarily adheres to a binary view of sex and gender. I can give some grace because it was written in 2008, but a more inclusive approach would have been beneficial, particularly the clients for whom I care. Further, the cultural aspects of sexuality are largely absent, which is a significant omission given the profound impact of culture on sexual attitudes and behaviors.

While Bonk may not be a comprehensive guide to sexual health, it's certainly a thought-provoking and entertaining read that can help normalize discussions about sex and science. As long as you approach it with an open mind and a critical eye, it can be a valuable beginning to your understanding of the science of human sexuality.