Therapy for Non-Monogamy & Polyamory
A space to understand your needs, navigate relationship dynamics, and create a version of non-monogamy that works for your relationship
You’ve had the conversations. You’ve been intentional about how you want your relationships to operate.
But in real time, emotions show up in ways that are harder to navigate than expected. Communication gets more complicated, and it’s not always clear how to respond without creating more tension.
At the same time, reactions like jealousy or comparison can come up, even when they don’t align with how you think you should feel. That can create a kind of internal conflict, where your understanding of non-monogamy doesn’t fully match how it’s showing up in your relationships.
What You Might Be Experiencing
You’ve had conversations about non-monogamy, but in practice, things aren’t unfolding the way you expected
You’re experiencing feelings of jealousy, comparison, or insecurity
Conversations feel higher-stakes, where saying the wrong thing could create conflict or shift the dynamic
You find yourself either over-explaining, holding back, or getting stuck in conversations that don’t fully resolve
Differences in expectations, boundaries, or pace have started to cause conflict
Managing multiple relationships, conversations, and expectations has started to feel like more than you anticipated
How I Approach This Work
Non-monogamy doesn’t break down in one obvious place. It’s usually a combination of communication, expectations, and how different dynamics are being handled in real time.
In our work together, we focus on what’s actually happening in your relationships, not just what was agreed on at the beginning. That includes looking at where communication is getting stuck, where expectations aren’t aligned, and how each person is responding within the dynamic.
We also work through emotional reactions as they come up, without treating them as something that shouldn’t be there. The goal isn’t to eliminate those reactions, but to understand them and respond in a way that doesn’t create more tension.
From there, we focus on building something that works in practice with clearer communication, more realistic expectations, and relationship structures that can actually be sustained over time.
As things start to work better in practice, your relationships will feel more stable and easier to navigate
There will be a clearer sense of how your relationships actually function and what expectations are realistic to maintain. You will have more direct and productive conversations, without the same level of over-processing, avoidance, or circular patterns. As communication improves, you will experience alignment across your relationships. You will address misunderstandings earlier, so you have less tension around whether everyone is on the same page.
Emotional reactions like jealousy, comparison, or insecurity will no longer feel as destabilizing. You’re able to recognize what’s happening, respond more intentionally, and stay grounded in your relationships rather than feeling pulled off course by those reactions. Over time, this creates a version of non-monogamy that actually fits your life, rather than forcing your relationship into a framework that doesn’t work.
What to Expect
Consultation
We start with a 20-minute consultation to understand what’s been coming up across your relationships. This includes where things feel off, what conversations have been difficult, and what you’re hoping to change.
Initial Sessions
We begin by meeting together to get a sense of the relationship and what’s been happening. From there, each person will have an individual session so I can better understand your perspectives, experiences, and what each of you wants to change.
Ongoing Work
From there, sessions focus on making your relationships more workable day to day. That may include improving communication, setting clearer agreements, and addressing issues as they come up so they don’t continue to fester.
FAQs
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There isn’t one correct way to structure a non-monogamous relationship. What matters is whether your agreements, communication, and expectations are actually working for the people involved. Therapy focuses on helping you define what works in practice, not whether you’re following a specific model.
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Differences in expectations are common in non-monogamous relationships. The work often involves getting specific about those differences and figuring out whether they can be aligned or need to be approached differently.
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Many challenges in non-monogamy are common, but that doesn’t mean they should be ignored. The focus is on identifying what’s part of the structure and what’s creating unnecessary tension so it can be addressed.
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Yes. Therapy is often most useful when you’ve already tried to navigate things on your own and are running into issues that aren’t resolving.
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You can schedule a 20-minute consultation to talk through what’s been coming up in your relationships and what you’re hoping to work on. From there, we’ll decide whether it makes sense to move forward and what the next step would look like, whether that’s individual or joint sessions.
It’s possible to create relationships that actually work for everyone involved
If things feel more complicated than expected, therapy can help you work through the dynamics and build a version of non-monogamy that feels stable and sustainable.